HOW TO USE GENDER-NEUTRAL PRONOUNS
These days, being sensitive is a must, especially in using the right pronoun to address someone. We are living in a world with a great diversity of individuals. As the spectrum of genders grows, there are additional gender-neutral pronouns as well. Some people stick to the basic gender-neutral pronouns, while other people, especially those who support the LGBTQ+ community added some gender-neutral pronouns in their vocabularies. Gender-neutral pronouns are not gender-based but refer to the third person. Basically, the “he” or “she” pronoun is not in this conversation, however, there is a precursor of those gender-based pronouns.
These are the formal examples of gender-neutral pronouns and how they can be used:
- They – it refers to more than two people; to describe a group of people (based on how they look like or what they did/doing); use for people and animals; plural
Example:
They love to go shopping.
They went to the cinema yesterday.
They are so cute together! (put “are” after the pronoun if describing)
- Their – it refers to ownership by a group of people (more than two); indirect or direct uses; plural
Example:
It is their own coffee shop.
Their lives are so beautiful!
- It – refers to one person (not gender-based), animal or object; to describe someone or something; singular
Example:
It appears vibrant!
It looks like a rainbow.
It is (name of the person) living there!
- Them – it points out a group of people (two or more) or object; plural
Example:
I want to buy them tomorrow! (it refers to an object or animal or fruit or food)
I saw them last night in the street. (it refers to a group of individuals)
Take note: the gender-neutral pronouns mentioned above can also be used after a certain noun, name or object is mentioned beforehand. Also, they are definite (particular) and indefinite (not particular).
Example:
I eat my birthday cake yesterday. It made my tummy full!
The girl’s band is so excellent. They are so talented!
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As mentioned in the first paragraph, as the spectrum of the genders widen, some people created a “new” set of pronouns to be used as gender-neutral pronouns.
According to the UW-Milwaukee LGBT Resource center (2011), the list below is the (informal) gender-neutral pronouns that were added to their vocabulary as support also to the LGBTQ+ community.
- He/She – Zie, Sie, Ey, Ve, Tey, E
- Him/Her – Zim, Sie, Em, Ver, Ter, Em
- His/Her – Zir, Hir, Eir, Vis, Tem, Eir
- His/Hers – Zis, Hirs, Eirs, Vers, Ters, Eirs
- Himself/Herself – Zieself, Hirself, Eirself, Verself, Terself, Emself
Additional list of gender-neutral pronouns:
- Ze/Zemself by Richard Creel (1997)
- Fae/faer/faerself
- Ve/vir/vis/verself by C. Hulme (1980s)
- Per/pers/perself by Marge Piercy (1979)
- Peh/pehm/pehself
- Hu/hum/hus/humself by Humanist (1982)